Enlightening Stories and Features
Annemarie Postma: The Sitting Chef
I have a girl crush. I admit it. She is beautiful, wise, spiritual, kind, giving and admirable in her work and life. She has a great marriage, a meaningful career, and lovely close family and friends. She lives and shares through her work, a healthy lifestyle that is respectful of the planet and all those, animals and humans alike, which inhabit it. What is not to love? So if you haven’t been introduced yet, we are happy to bring this wonderful life force to your attention. Annemarie Postma, aka The Sitting Chef, has agreed to be interviewed, and we have many questions.
Interview with Dr. Mitchell Tepper, Sexologist
Sex is one way pre-injury. Now it is different. How to both partners adjust? How do you deal with the expectations of what is “normal”?
A common sentiment I hear from people after their injuries is that sex is not the same, not normal anymore. What's normal for people is relative to what was normal for them before they crashed their car, got shot, or fell off a cliff. The sad news is that both partners don't always adjust. Sometimes a person with a spinal injury has an experience with himself or herself or a partner that makes them come to the conclusion that sex is pointless, why bother, and they give up. Sometimes a partner leaves, avoids sex or finds sex somewhere else. These live experiences are often very difficult to get by without support from others who have been there and eventually came out whole or professional support. If both partners are committed to continuing their sexual relationship, then adjustment happens over time with education and experimentation. That's why you always hear me talking or writing about sexual self-discovery.
September is National Spinal Cord Injury Awareness month and because of that it is my mission to shout awareness of an issue near and dear to all of us in wheelchairs, Deep Vein Thrombosis (DVTs) or blood clots. We, men and women, are all prone to DVTs by simply sitting most of the day. Unfortunately, due to our spinal cord injuries, we find ourselves in a sedentary position for extensive periods of time. Remaining FIT and FABULOUS is my goal with these articles and this one is no exception. Finding exercises to reposition our lower extremities, even while in a wheelchair is extremely critical in maintaining our health by remaining DVT-free.
My articles are usually chats on becoming FIT AND FABULOUS but I wanted to expand on a question asked earlier and further discuss CONCUSSIONS and WHEELCHAIR FALLS. Concussions in general have been in the forefront of Sports Medicine lately with the increase of head injuries in football and soccer alike. No longer is this type of injury “accepted” as part of performing sports; experts are looking at this phenomenon from a different angle now. Sitting in a wheelchair on a daily basis increases our chances of a fall, where we may strike our head, which results in subsequently a head injury or concussion. It’s a fact of our life-but should not be ignored!
Sunny California Native Goes Green and Back to her Roots with Garden Project
Donnella Whitacre has a free and gratitude based spirit that has found the true joy in the nature, beauty, and life that is represented in her growing garden.
A true Southern California girl, with sunshine in her hair and the beautiful blue of the sky in her eyes, Donnella decided to begin to plant her garden in June of 2013. Her motivation came from a friend, who had an organic garden he invited her to experience. Since then, her garden has become a very important part of her life, and it shows in her story and images.
PUSHLiving interviewed Donnella, and we hope you enjoy her insight, advice and love for her Garden Life!
When I was newly injured and just starting to date again, I realized fairly quickly that I got less attention being in the chair, than I did before. Just when I was getting a little down my mom told me, “Honey, that wheelchair is like a weed eater. Those men that don’t want you because of your chair, you shouldn't want any way. Can you imagine if you had married one of those guys before your accident, had your accident, and they leave you in your darkest hour?” DING! The light bulb went off, and I had not only come to terms with my weed eater, but I loved it.